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Where I Stand When I Think of Marriage
I have little to no faith that a man would treat me gently if I were to marry.
Why would it be in a man’s best interest to consider how tired I am and help me with household chores?
What would stop him from grappling and throwing me to the ground?
He would know that I would be weaker than him physically so why wouldn’t he think that he could take advantage of me and get the police to side with his words?
He wouldn’t feel incentivized to treat me like I am at his level because he would be confident in his physical strength. I constantly envision being choked, having objects thrown at me, getting punched on the head, being slammed against the wall, being kicked down the stairs and so forth.
He would know that I wouldn’t be able to get him to even go out and find a job. He would know how much I couldn’t do anything about anything.
He would know that it would be much easier for him to throw me out of the house instead of the other way around. He would be confident in his being a man in a society that favors his gender; he would use that confidence to pummel me into a pile of organs that no longer feel like working.
I don’t tend to see that a man would treat me right because he knows his status is higher than mine and he has more…
